When Loneliness Knocks on Your Door…Answer it!

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This post was originally published here.

Five ways to lean into loneliness and find resilience.

There are times in our lives when loneliness may haunt us. It might be our child leaving for college or going to the non-custodial parent for visitation; or, it might be when our parents transition to the other life. For some, it might be those long years after the loss of a spouse, whether in divorce or death. Perhaps you are a military spouse raising children and your loving husband/wife is serving abroad.

Upon reading a book, When Things Fall Apart, by Pema Chödron,* I found this chapter that really spoke to me. She talks about being in a state of loneliness.

Pema Chödron describes six kinds of loneliness to demonstrate our phases and evolutions beyond what might make us feel “crazy” and feeling like we must do something with it. She, further, describes this state of being with our loneliness, a sort of leaning in.

There are quite a few types of conversations that I conduct with my clients on this very topic. We’ve all been there: constant yearning to do something to replace the anxiety of it; we want to fix the other person, hoping for better companionship; eating to stuff the emotions down deeper; over-exercising; pacing the floors; feeling no purpose because this loneliness has consumed you so much that you cannot even move. We buy cars, boats, relocate to a new place, anything to remove this feeling of loneliness.

Yes, you know it; you’ve been there. you have felt the pain. Even children have experienced the loneliness of living with someone who is in the home, but emotionally removed from their lives.

We tend to feel this sense of need to explain this state of loneliness, to place blame or defeat. But, it only takes us deeper into our anxiety and our search for happiness. So what can we do?

What is it? Sit with it. Yes, exactly that: just sit with it. Sit long enough to find, first, the story about this feeling of loneliness. Find time in your day for about three consecutive days to sit for 15 minutes to an hour, as long as you can keep your thoughts straight enough to research it in your mind. What is the location of these feelings? Does it feel sad, painful, physical, etc.? Then leave your meditation or pondering and go about your day. Practice this for three days, dedicating about the same time to each question.

Ask yourself: On the fourth day, ask yourself “What is it about this feeling of loneliness that serves me?” “What does not serve me?” Lean into it, feel it, BE it. Do not judge it, just be still with loneliness.

Showing up: On the fifth day, this is when you lean into the feeling of life without judging loneliness. You know that life will bring that feeling again, but now the emotion is different. After about 10 minutes of meditation, ask yourself, “What is it that I do that helps me show up for myself?” What does that look like? What do you want it to look like? Meditate on that without judgment.

Keep your promise: Once, you have done the meditations with loneliness and how you can show up for yourself – even while emerging from the state of loneliness- imagine living in this neutral, curious state all the time. Find time each day to do something that reminds you of who you are or who you want to be. Really take time for this, even if it is ten minutes. Light a candle, sing a song, dance to your favorite tune, walk on the grass- feel this feeling of who you are.

Living in Gratitude: When we LIVE in gratitude, the world is a much different place. We become like a curious child to see what other magical moments and surprises arise so we can be grateful for those moments. They are teaching moments. This state of being brings us to mastering the resilience of the state of loneliness and walking further in the mastery of happiness.

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“When we LIVE in gratitude, the world is a much different place.”

When loneliness arises in your life, and it will, keep these concepts in mind. You have choices in how you live your life, responding wisely with the feeling of alignment.

As I mentioned, in my mentoring/coaching practice I conduct several different types of conversations to further go into this feeling of loneliness and other emotions that seem to haunt us and hang on. There are multiple different ways to practice and find this resilience that changes how we respond versus react to these emotions.

If you are a Personal Coach or serve in Employee Development, you will encounter these situations weekly, if not daily, with your clients/employees. There is this continuous yearning for happiness that I’m sure you recognize: the next promotion, making more money, taking on more responsibilities, going back to school, getting along with others in the workplace. The list becomes endless, and it is your role to gently guide and help your client bring forth all the necessary information in order to make better informed decisions, be more mindful, embrace diversity and work in a happier state while employed with the company they serve.

For individuals: You are invited to attend….

On October 18, 7pm CST, I will be offering an International Call on the topic of happiness, The Pursuit of Happiness and Health This workshop is a product of Taproots for Life, a for-profit organization that uplifts women who are finding their voice after life-changing events and want to bring magic and surprise back into their lives.

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During this Neuro Linguistic Program course, you and your client will dive deep into the core of who you really are and what is truly possible when the conscious, subconscious and unconscious align. Through this information there will come an awareness of the conflicts that are running under the surface that tend to create obstacles to our manifestation. When we move from awareness to acceptance then we all awaken to more of what is really possible. There will be neuron paths The Body, Heart and Mindcreated that will override the programming which life’s events, incidents and accidents have installed from our feelings, thoughts and beliefs.

Accessing and becoming more familiar with our subconscious guards and gatekeepers will shift what has limited us, into what was designed to motivate us. The values that drive us are brought to the surface, and our ability to express ourselves with more clarity, convinces us that what we want is really possible. Then, with focus, we continue to move toward mastery with ease and grace. As coach or as client, the resourcefulness gathered really will make a very big difference as we train ourselves to respond to our emotions from a wiser place.

This course includes 10 Neuro Linguistic Programming Scripts creating clarity, discovering breakthroughs and assigning action steps for achieving success. These advanced Neuro Linguistic Core Alignment Coaching processes support clients in wondrous movement from awareness of the present, acceptance of their past and awakening to their future.  During this course you will do practices that support clients in realigning their belief structure to stand in the essence of who they were born to be.   Clients will become familiar with the guards and gatekeepers of their life that have limited them and motivated them.  This program will give your clients the confidence to share with the world more of who they truly are from their core.  


Class Begins Thursday 9/19/2019 through 12/19/2019

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Visionaries Walt Disney, Henry Ford both had this in common: a clear vision, a conscious message and concise missions. Howard Schultz (Starbucks) and Matthew Levatich (Harley Davidson) believe in Life Coaching and NLP. They brought this into their businesses in the late 1990’s, turned their businesses around and have kept coaching involved ever since.

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Manifest Your Dreams Series, and Gift Opportunity!

Manifest Your Dreams FlyerConnect with Marie Lugtu, Spiritual Healer. She is hosting a complimentary online video interview series called Manifest Your Dreams! How to connect to your deepest calling & start manifesting miracles in your life!  I am grateful to be one of the 21 hand-picked influencers interviewed for this transformative event. Expose yourself to the high frequency of living in the moment and unleashing your light with pure and honest conversations about manifesting miracles in your everyday life.  Each Influencers share how their ordinary lives became extraordinary when they applied their simple and practical tool and habits to continually and consistently create lasting results. I invite you to join me and gain access to this exciting online event.

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Core Aligned Neuro-Linguistic Program with Coaching through our relationship to time.

Flourish and grow in your business and personal life by applying principles, processes and practices that truly make a phenomenal difference from the core.

During these 12 weeks, participants will be Refining and defining Intentions, Responding and developing Intuition, Recognizing and determining Influences.

Gather the developed and advanced NLP skills to add success, ease and fulfillment to all areas of your business and your life.

This course is good for coaches, entrepreneurs, teachers, parents and individuals who are ready to move from resistance to acceptance, who are ready to love the life that they live, who know that they have more to offer, give and receive from this time they are spending here in this moment and tomorrow.

With instructional classes, supplemental materials, individual coaching and ongoing mentoring, this in-depth course has been internationally recognized as a program above others out there.

This course is different because it really will make the difference for you that will last through the test of time.

Trained coaches say, “This program took me from wanting to be a coach to having a thriving coaching practice.”

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Entrepreneurs inspire others, “This took my business to the next level by refreshing me at the core.”

Teachers encourage, “I know that I am here to see what more is possible for each individual I have the honor to see.”

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Time is something we all have a relationship with that makes a difference. This course has to do with our relationship with time.

Take a look at this article about the value of our relationship with time, to get a feel for all that this course has to offer.

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Connect, Communicate, Create! Do you have everything you want? Are you doing what really matters to you? Is your career and lifestyle filling you with gratitude?

Simple and easy Core Alignment NLP Coaching Processes and Tools can be applied to truly get you more of what you want in your business, your relationships and your life. The principles, processes and practices taught and shared in this 12-week course will transform and transition you into greater success and create awareness and acceptance to align clients so that they respond in more resourceful ways.

This course creates neuron paths that allow people to live a life aligned with their core purpose, and thus an attitude of gratitude naturally evolves in their lives. Using scripts that have been carefully constructed with NLP principals, makes this course applicable for beginning, advance coaches and all others who are ready to step into more of what they want, and show up more masterfully in their lives.

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These transformational conversations will take you and your clients through steps for creating clarity, setting intentions, gaining assistance, removing resistance, stepping into purpose, recognizing core values and stating what is truly important at the core level.

You and your clients achieve more of what is wanted, more of what really matters, and a life filled with gratitude.

Here are some comments from past graduates:
“This program totally transformed my business. I was a practicing Certified Life Coach and was unable to build my business. During this 10 weeks I became a Certified NLP Coach and with this professionalism I went from 2 clients to 8 well paying clients. I now know what to do to get what I want and how to ask for it.”
“After just one session I knew that I wanted to be a Core Alignment Specialist, this styles is so different, so complex yet so simple at the same time.”
“A natural attitude of gratitude comes easily when you know how to ask for what you really want because you usually get it, I know I do now and my clients share how now they do too.”

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Live Interview with Marcelle Voomz

“I feel to inspired and expanded after a conversation I just had with Kate Michels. You can watch it here.” – Marcelle Voomz

Being able to share the 5 Steps to Success with Marcelle Voomz in her discussion series was amazing and being asked to do a new interview to present the techniques further, is a tribute to our alignment in bringing the tools to help others in overcoming the obstacles we perceive in our lives. I’m sharing Marcelle’s invitation to you to watch here on my site.

More from Marcelle: You may also remember Kate from the “CREATE DON’T WAIT” interviews series and I was thrilled when she was open to coming back and diving deeper with me.

She dives into her 5 steps to Success (aka Manifesting, aka Making Miracles Happen) as well as beautifully articulates techniques from her unbelievable toolbox to help free us from the barriers and issues we all come up against that can keep us stuck.”  – Marcelle Voomz

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Kate Michels on Breast Friends Cancer Support Radio

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I am aligned with the Breast Friends Cancer Support Radio Network in approaching a cancer diagnosis with Emotional Wisdom Training to support healing.

The host of Breast Friends Cancer Support Radio Network approached me to discuss my own experiences with cancer and healing. I believe in and am using emotional wisdom training to support my body, mind and spirit through the past seven years of an intensive healing process stemming from a misdiagnosis culminating with cancer. My own miracles happened once I recognized that cancer was one of the ways my body was communicating what was wrong.

A rebroadcast of my interview on VoiceAmerica Health and Wellness Channel will air on Wednesday July 4th at 9am PT.

Food Revolution Summit 2018

April 28- May 6, 2018 Listen for free to get empowered

Register for the biggest Food Revolution Summit EVER

Today, I want to tell you about an event that could change — possibly even save — your life.

Every year, my friends and colleagues, John and Ocean Robbins, host what I consider to be the best free resource on the planet. If you want to find out exactly which foods you should be eating, and which foods you should be avoiding, in order to support your health, then this is perfect for you.

Find out more and join in for no charge, here.

Hundreds of thousands of people, including me, attend from all around the world. We listen enthusiastically, because this is THE place to get the latest breaking insights on how you can use food to prevent or fight cancer, heart disease, type 2 diabetes, and dementia — and how you can contribute to a healthier planet.

John and Ocean are bringing together 24 of the top food and health experts on the planet for this year’s Food Revolution Summit.

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Have you heard the Robbins’ unbelievable story?

John was given the opportunity to inherit his father’s Baskin-Robbins ice cream fortune. But, instead, he decided to walk away to follow his own “rocky road” and became a global food and health leader. His bestselling books have inspired millions.

Today, John and his son, Ocean, have made it their mission to stand up for healthy, ethical, sustainable food for all. When you join this year’s Food Revolution Summit, they’ll bring you the latest breaking insights about food and health, from experts you can trust.

Learn more and join this event now, it’s complimentary and amazing!

Never before in the history of the world has safe and healthy food been a more important topic.

Our lives are on the line. By taking action and getting involved, you’re standing for the food revolution we all need to ensure our health and the health of future generations.

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P.S. When you sign up for the Food Revolution Summit, you’ll get informed, inspired, and empowered to increase your energy, vitality, and health. As a bonus, you’ll also receive the Real Food Action Guide: Your road map to eating safe, healing, and delicious foods (without feeling deprived)!

Click here to learn all about the Summit, see the AMAZING list of speakers, and secure your spot now.

Upcoming Course: Neuro Linguistic Coach Training

Learn global listening skills that make it possible to hear at a phenomenally deep level.

Starts: Thursday April 12 at 5pm PST | 8pm EST

12 Week Course – Thursday Evenings

Core Alignment NLP Coaching Processes and Tools that create awareness with acceptance to align clients so they easily awaken to responding more resourcefully.

This course is recommended for entrepreneurs, teachers, health professionals, parents, coaches, sales associates, web designers and anyone who wants to know how to support people in getting more of what it is from the life that truly matters to them.

These transformational conversations will take you and your clients through 10 steps that easily lead to success. Creating clarity, setting intentions, gaining assistance, removing resistance, stepping into purpose, recognizing core values and stating what is truly important at the core level leads to achieving more of what is really wanted.

This 12 week course creates neuron paths that reprogram people to live a life that is in alignment with their core purpose, and thus an attitude of gratitude naturally evolves in their lives within their careers and relationships. Using scripts that have been carefully constructed in applying the principals of Neuro Linguistic Programming, makes this course applicable for beginning and advanced coaches who are ready to assist clients to step into more of what they want, and show up more masterfully in their lives.

 

Here are some comments from past graduates:

“This program totally transformed my business. I was a practicing Certified Life Coach and was unable to build my business. During this 10 weeks I became a Certified NLP Coach and with this professionalism I went from 2 clients to 8 well paying clients. I now know what to do to get what I want and how to ask for it.”
“After just one session I knew that I wanted to be a Core Alignment Specialist, this style is so different, so complex yet so simple at the same time.”
“A natural attitude of gratitude comes easily when you know how to ask for what you really want because you usually get it, I know I do now and my clients share how now they do too.”

Contact Kate Now to Sign Up
Email: kate@corealignmentcoaching.com
Phone: (503) 939-9675

*Once contacted you will receive more information on signing up for this course.